Stability and a New Job
May. 9th, 2023 03:17 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
tuesday_morningI'm really surprised at how stable I've been up to this point with regard to rapid switching between my different parts. I think maybe it has something to do with exercises that my therapist has been assigning me. At first, we were instructed to jot down in a journal some things to help us keep track of which parts were at the front for that specific day. The only constant thing about those entries were how varied they were for each day. It was a headache to keep up with... But then, my therapist suggested that, instead, we focus our attentions on affirming one of the parts who was fronting the most at the time. That would be Kyle. Things about Kyle that we could affirm are his gender, his personality, and things like that. I think that directing our focus like that has been incredibly helpful rather than having each part fight to get noticed at the same time.
Having Kyle at the front hasn't been bad at all. On the contrary, it's actually been pretty pleasant. He's on the more cheerful side, but also stays level-headed when necessary, so that's been good. And one of my inner moms has been towards the front as well to help out too because, admittedly, we've been going through a little bit of a rough patch. On Friday, we lost our job because some mental health complications were making it difficult for me to perform at work. I agreed with my employer that it just wasn't working out, so I left with no hard feelings. The minute we lost our job, one of our inner moms stepped in to help Kyle with applying for unemployment, government health insurance, and other things as well that would be necessary to keep us all afloat. Sure enough, thanks to their efforts, we landed a new job today and are currently in the process of finishing all onboarding tasks. I'm very appreciative of our inner moms' sense of urgency with this situation, because it helped us to get right back on our feet in less than a week's time. That's gotta be a new record for us.
But anyways, I just wanted to give this positive update because I felt pretty proud that we didn't freak out too badly and that we've been able to band together to stay stable during this hectic time in our lives. I notice, too, that it's always adversity that brings us closer together and makes us feel more functional to some extent. Just an observation on my end. Perhaps it's because we know we can't fall apart without knowing for certain that someone will be there to help us pick up the pieces. There are small pockets of support that we have, but they're minimal. So I have to keep going and make things work as best as I can. I guess that's our inner resilience working.
Having Kyle at the front hasn't been bad at all. On the contrary, it's actually been pretty pleasant. He's on the more cheerful side, but also stays level-headed when necessary, so that's been good. And one of my inner moms has been towards the front as well to help out too because, admittedly, we've been going through a little bit of a rough patch. On Friday, we lost our job because some mental health complications were making it difficult for me to perform at work. I agreed with my employer that it just wasn't working out, so I left with no hard feelings. The minute we lost our job, one of our inner moms stepped in to help Kyle with applying for unemployment, government health insurance, and other things as well that would be necessary to keep us all afloat. Sure enough, thanks to their efforts, we landed a new job today and are currently in the process of finishing all onboarding tasks. I'm very appreciative of our inner moms' sense of urgency with this situation, because it helped us to get right back on our feet in less than a week's time. That's gotta be a new record for us.
But anyways, I just wanted to give this positive update because I felt pretty proud that we didn't freak out too badly and that we've been able to band together to stay stable during this hectic time in our lives. I notice, too, that it's always adversity that brings us closer together and makes us feel more functional to some extent. Just an observation on my end. Perhaps it's because we know we can't fall apart without knowing for certain that someone will be there to help us pick up the pieces. There are small pockets of support that we have, but they're minimal. So I have to keep going and make things work as best as I can. I guess that's our inner resilience working.
