About Love, from Moms

 

Just got some humbling and sound advice from my inner moms just now regarding relationships of any kind (familial, friendship, romantic). I'll skip the backstory and just get to the quotes:


"If you love someone; truly love them... then you have to be willing to love yourself too."

This is true because maybe one day I do love someone or care for them, and they genuinely love and care for me too. The last thing I'd ever want to do is hurt them in any way; emotionally included. So if I'm not caring for myself and am willing to be the "sacrificial lamb", assuming they really love me... how would that make that person feel? It would probably hurt them so badly, which would feel even worse than just trying to give up on myself for them in a skewed sense of trying to show that I love them.

"Rowen, you try to carry the world on your shoulders, but that's not fair to you or those who love and care about you... You need to take care of yourself, love. That's one of the biggest ways you can say 'I love you' back to them; by taking the best care that you can of the one they love dearly."